Comments on: Want Engaged Team Players? Ask!

By: DDDepressionnn

DDDepressionnn — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 18:24:34 +0000

There has come winter
It became cold and cloudy!
Mood very bad
Depression Begins

By: Frank Uncovers Excellence in Leadership » The power of questions

Frank Uncovers Excellence in Leadership » The power of questions — Thu, 31 Aug 2006 13:33:42 +0000

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By: J. Timothy King

J. Timothy King — Thu, 06 Apr 2006 01:43:47 +0000

Yes, Jim, I agree. Our first reaction—mine especially—is to tell everyone what I think.

I like how Michael Cloud put it. Of course, he was talking about political persuasion, but persuasion is persuasion. I don’t have the exact audio at my fingertips. I believe it was from his “freedom store” speech. It goes something like this:

Let’s say someone states an opinion, a vocal opinion that rubs you the wrong way. Here’s how you respond. First, you say, “Ooh! Tell me more!” After they tear into your heart a second time, then, and only then, you can say, “Ah! Tell me more!” Finally, they finish tromping all over your sacred beliefs, and you can at last tell them, “Oh… Tell me more!” By that time maybe they’ll have talked enough and you’ll have heard enough that you can actually have a constructive conversation with them in language they can relate to, and maybe then you’ll actually have a chance of persuading them to come a little further to your point of view.

Okay. I really butchered Michael Cloud’s exact language. But I trust I still got across his point.

-TimK

By: Suldog

Suldog — Wed, 05 Apr 2006 16:50:04 +0000

Yes, one of the easiest ways to get someone to do what you want is to get them thinking that they came up with the idea. Unfortunately, ego being what it is, not a lot of people are willing to let others take the credit. I’ve certainly been guilty of this fault.

Good reminder, Tim. Thanks.