Comments on: :-p :^) to Prospective Employers http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers The Life of an Indie Romance Author Sun, 14 Mar 2010 12:09:56 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: J. Timothy King http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-173157 J. Timothy King Fri, 28 Aug 2009 08:31:38 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-173157 Thanks, everyone, for your kind words. Ironically, I found myself specifically <em>avoiding</em> using emoticons in an email to a job recruiter yesterday. :-) Danny, I believe you're right. I too present different views of myself to my Facebook friends (whom I know at least casually), as opposed to what I post on my blog or on Twitter. And the me you meet in real life is likely to be very different than the me you see in print. In fact, I have a story idea in my big list about such a situation, where the worlds of a character collide and unsettle her. -TimK Thanks, everyone, for your kind words.

Ironically, I found myself specifically avoiding using emoticons in an email to a job recruiter yesterday. :-)

Danny, I believe you’re right. I too present different views of myself to my Facebook friends (whom I know at least casually), as opposed to what I post on my blog or on Twitter. And the me you meet in real life is likely to be very different than the me you see in print. In fact, I have a story idea in my big list about such a situation, where the worlds of a character collide and unsettle her.

-TimK

]]> By: Grammy http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-172698 Grammy Thu, 20 Aug 2009 23:06:21 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-172698 Hi Tim, Thanks for stopping by. I choose people for who they are inside. As allot of my friends have no other friends. I can see past there outer shell and accept them for who they are. I do not let there appearance to the world stop me from being there friend. I have learned not to judge people and have taught this to my kids. So who is the you you wish to be? HEHEHE Have a wonderful day and stop by any time. I look forward to reading some of your book. Hi Tim,
Thanks for stopping by.
I choose people for who they are inside. As allot of my friends have no other friends. I can see past there outer shell and accept them for who they are.
I do not let there appearance to the world stop me from being there friend. I have learned not to judge people and have taught this to my kids.

So who is the you you wish to be?
HEHEHE

Have a wonderful day and stop by any time.
I look forward to reading some of your book.

]]> By: Giulietta Nardone http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-172680 Giulietta Nardone Thu, 20 Aug 2009 18:03:46 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-172680 Hi Tim, I agree! Why hide who you really are and why do employers want employees that do so? And what's with the detective work on the Internet really about? Enjoyed your read. I wish that your wish for all of us to be our best "you" comes true! Giulietta the Muse Hi Tim,

I agree! Why hide who you really are and why do employers want employees that do so? And what’s with the detective work on the Internet really about? Enjoyed your read. I wish that your wish for all of us to be our best “you” comes true!

Giulietta the Muse

]]> By: Danny http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-172678 Danny Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:00:45 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-172678 I think the story of the woman who got herself fired via Facebook brings up a much more important, and more difficult, topic. Social networks don't so much attract "friends" like their UIs would indicate so much as "acquaintances" or "people you know some of the people you do". In this woman's case, she and her boss were "friends" on Facebook. Why? They're clearly not friends. I bet they're connected on LinkedIn too. Why? The biggest problem is that in "real life", you can exhibit different personalities around different people. I'm the real me in front of my parents and the real me in front of my closest friends, but "the real me" acts differently around either group. For example, maybe I curse more in front of my friends. But I wouldn't consider myself to be acting disingenuously in front of my parents, that's just a different level of etiquette depending on the company. On the internet, I don't have this luxury. You can have different personas on different sites, but *all* of them are browseable to anybody you're connected to. We've now lost the ability to change our etiquette based on those we're interacting with. If this were a software problem, my take would be to program to the lowest common denominator. If your college buddies as well as your boss are friends with you on facebook, your facebook page needs to hide the drunken picture of you peeing on your neighbor's house. If that's too much to ask, perhaps it's time to stop "friending" your parents and coworkers. There are plenty of other ways to keep in touch with them. I think the story of the woman who got herself fired via Facebook brings up a much more important, and more difficult, topic. Social networks don’t so much attract “friends” like their UIs would indicate so much as “acquaintances” or “people you know some of the people you do”. In this woman’s case, she and her boss were “friends” on Facebook. Why? They’re clearly not friends. I bet they’re connected on LinkedIn too. Why?

The biggest problem is that in “real life”, you can exhibit different personalities around different people. I’m the real me in front of my parents and the real me in front of my closest friends, but “the real me” acts differently around either group. For example, maybe I curse more in front of my friends. But I wouldn’t consider myself to be acting disingenuously in front of my parents, that’s just a different level of etiquette depending on the company.

On the internet, I don’t have this luxury. You can have different personas on different sites, but *all* of them are browseable to anybody you’re connected to. We’ve now lost the ability to change our etiquette based on those we’re interacting with.

If this were a software problem, my take would be to program to the lowest common denominator. If your college buddies as well as your boss are friends with you on facebook, your facebook page needs to hide the drunken picture of you peeing on your neighbor’s house. If that’s too much to ask, perhaps it’s time to stop “friending” your parents and coworkers. There are plenty of other ways to keep in touch with them.

]]> By: Shamsi http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-172677 Shamsi Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:58:37 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-172677 LOL Fabulous rant...standing with polite clapping and general approval :) Like you need it, but what the heck...seems that the general idea of the moment is "Be yourself regardless" ;-) Cheers Tim, here is to whatever it is that you wish for you, yourself, etc :) Let's hear it for the 1 AM rant! LOL Fabulous rant…standing with polite clapping and general approval :) Like you need it, but what the heck…seems that the general idea of the moment is “Be yourself regardless” ;-) Cheers Tim, here is to whatever it is that you wish for you, yourself, etc :) Let’s hear it for the 1 AM rant!

]]> By: Karen http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-172676 Karen Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:54:43 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-172676 May we all be who we really are not matter what. What Tim wishes for himself and all of us, so I wish for him and us also. May we all be who we really are not matter what.
What Tim wishes for himself and all of us, so I wish for him and us also.

]]> By: Kavindra http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-172674 Kavindra Thu, 20 Aug 2009 14:31:34 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-172674 :) Wow! I don't even know what to say ;) I just want to use a whole buncha emoticons, ya know :> and of course, also, to work the word "wanker" into this comment :) Thanks for the laugh. If there was a wish in there, I wish it comes true! :)
Wow! I don’t even know what to say
;)
I just want to use a whole buncha emoticons, ya know :>
and of course, also, to work the word “wanker” into this comment :)

Thanks for the laugh. If there was a wish in there, I wish it comes true!

]]> By: LaWendeltreppe http://blog.jtimothyking.com/2009/08/20/p-to-prospective-employers/comment-page-1#comment-172649 LaWendeltreppe Thu, 20 Aug 2009 08:54:03 +0000 http://blog.jtimothyking.com/?p=1200#comment-172649 I really like the last sentence. Btw: My problem is, I need twice the time as all my fellow wishers, because English isn't my mothertongue. Reading a post like yours, such a long one, takes time. Reading more than 30 posts takes a long long long time. So I really can't do that. So the YOU I wish to be right know is the one who can use Englisch just as anyone of my fellow wishers does. About the girl with the job: It's not nice to call somebody a wanker, BUT quite right: if she has this feelings, she can call herself lucky, she's lost the job. Who wants to work for a wanker? I really like the last sentence. Btw: My problem is, I need twice the time as all my fellow wishers, because English isn’t my mothertongue. Reading a post like yours, such a long one, takes time. Reading more than 30 posts takes a long long long time. So I really can’t do that.
So the YOU I wish to be right know is the one who can use Englisch just as anyone of my fellow wishers does.

About the girl with the job: It’s not nice to call somebody a wanker, BUT quite right: if she has this feelings, she can call herself lucky, she’s lost the job.
Who wants to work for a wanker?

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