Love and Relationships

Replacing Passive-Aggressiveness with Grace and Beauty

Last week, I drove my daughter’s iPad down to her at to school. One of the Blue Shirts there in the parking lot approached me and asked what I was doing, and told me, “we get a little concerned,” because I was waiting there for her. I figured, as soon as he realized I was […]

If We Switched Sexes on Valentine’s Day

We stay-at-home dads see this video from a special perspective: Working moms, do something special for your husband-homemaker today. And everyone, have a wonderful Valentine’s Day! -TimK

The Joy of Old Friends and New Family

In early August, while the girls were at camp, I spent a lot of uninterrupted time with Tessie-cat. At almost-19 years, she’s even older (in cat years) than I am. I call her “my geriatric cat,” which is what she is. All she did for the whole week was to sit on the back on […]

The Power of Forgiveness

Tomorrow is Yom Kippur. (Next week will start Sukkot, then Simchat Torah, and then the holidays will be done… Until Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, and so forth.) Yom Kippur is the Jewish Day of Atonement, “because on this day atonement will be made for you, to cleanse you. Then, before the Lord, you will be clean […]

News Flash! This Is NOT a Big Deal

We make life more complicated than it needs to be. In the most vibrant and optimistic time in human history, we live without hope. And I’m including myself in that “we.” Last week, my Beloved and I celebrated our 19′th wedding anniversary. And you might think after 19 years, it’s getting a little old… and […]

The View from Someone Else’s Eyes

Shared recently by a friend of mine (on one of those social networking sites), a heartbreaking story, but not for the reasons you might expect. A pretty, young woman is riding the train, reading a book. The entire car is empty, except for her and a quiet, elderly gentleman near the back. A young man […]

Bits & Pieces 2012-07-12

Links and things that I’ve run across recently. Are You a Twitter Bot? I ran across this site while searching for statistics on Twitter bots: BotOrNot.net will take a Twitter username and predict, based on that user’s public timeline, whether he’s a bot or a human. As it turns out, I’m a human—Phew! And so […]

Budgeting is a Love Thang

According to Dave Ramsey, money arguments are the number-one cause of marital strife. Now, I’m not sure where he got that factoid. And I don’t actually know whether it’s true, because marriages—as all relationships—are more complex and nuanced than a single cause. Regardless, it is surely true that money arguments are a leading factor in […]

Once you’ve walked in my shoes…

A friend of mine remarked today (in a private online forum), “Once you’ve walked in the shoes I walk in, live the life I live, and feel the pain I feel, then you can judge me.” This is a common sentiment, which has inspired some powerful stories, and which inspired some involved thoughts of my […]

Three Kinds of Love

This is so très kewl! I was watching on NetFlix a Discovery Channel documentary, The Science of Sex Appeal… research for my next novel. Anyhow, at one point during the program, anthropologist Helen Fisher said: I think that we’ve evolved three distinctly different brain systems for love. One is the sex drive, the craving for […]