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Atheist Problems

Ever since coming out atheist, I’ve noticed that people interact with me differently than they did before. And I interact with them differently. As a result, I’ve found these extremely funny. There’s one kind of atheist problem, like that posed by the most Reverend E.F. Briggs. (Because when E.F. Briggs talks, people tune out.) E.F. […]

An Atheist in an Airplane

No one raised in a religious environment wants to come out atheist. Few people who grew up in the US would want to use that word. And when I finally told one of my close friends that I was an atheist, she said, “Oh no! You lost your faith?!” But after I explained exactly what […]

A Born Again Unbeliever

The last time I wrote to you, I was a Christian fundamentalist. Now, I’m not. That’s not quite true. The last time I wrote to you, I still gave a nod to Christian fundamentalism. Now, I do not. In April, that house of cards collapsed. And while the fundamentalist dogma runs deep, I think you’ll […]

More Myths about Sex

(This is part 5—and the last part in a while—in the series, “What I Want My Teenage Daughters to Know about Sex.” Click here to read it from the beginning.) We pick up this week with more myths about sex and relationships, especially that part about relationships.

Myths about Sex

(This is part 4 in my series, “What I Want My Teenage Daughters to Know about Sex.” Click here to read it from the beginning.) In the words of psychologist David Ley, “many of our beliefs about sexuality have been based on myths and subjective fears.” Indeed, numerous myths about sex and relationships persistently circulate […]

Regrets of Sorrow and Forgiveness

“Re had been riding her dirt bike without a helmet, accelerating too fast, when she lost control and ran headlong into a tree. She had been killed instantly. And I had been out, almost losing my virginity, when the call had come in.” That last sentence is a lie. When I originally wrote it, I […]

Intimacy and Marriage, and Sexual Ethics

(This is part 3 in my series, “What I Want My Teenage Daughters to Know about Sex.” Click here to read it from the beginning.) Yes, you heard me right: Getting married has nothing to do with getting pregnant, and getting pregnant has only a passing connection to sex. You might think then that I […]

More Artwork: You’ve Come a Long Way

Almost 5 years ago, I posted some of my Little One Abbie’s artwork. Now that she’s a full-fledged high-schooler, calling her “Little One” feels a little creepy, and reminds me too much of Lwaxana Troi. (But I still sometimes do it anyway.) Anyhoo, in the intervening years, she’s been posting lots of stuff on her […]

It’s Not Just about Teen Pregnancy

(This is part 2 in my series, “What I Want My Teenage Daughters to Know about Sex.” Click here to read it from the beginning.) There’s a story that continues to permeate even modern society. If you have sex, you might get pregnant, and that would be a disaster. After you get married—or in some […]

What I Want My Teenage Daughters to Know about Sex

I disagree with many other Christians about sex. Firstly, I think God wants us to be happy and prosperous. He created us to enjoy the world and our existence in it. And sex is part of that existence. To turn a phrase, sex was made for man, not man for sex. Sex should be fun, […]